The era where strap-on sex toys were seen as something perverted or exclusively for lesbians wanting some penetrating action is definitely over! More and more people are accepting the fact that whether you’re a gay or straight couple, strap on toys can open up a whole new world of fun… While reading this article, why not also have a look at the great variety of Strap-ons for sale at Alter Ego UK.

Roughly we divide strap-ons into two groups: for women and for men.

Strap-ons for women -

Most of these feature not just the obvious protruding dildo at the front - but also, more hidden, a little something for you to enjoy the toy more as well. Most female strap-ons either have a dildo facing inwards to fill you up as well as hold the strap on harness more firmly in place, or it could have a vibrating bullet which you can control with a wired remote.

Strap-ons for men -

The most common type of male strap-on is one where the dildo is hollow, so you put your penis inside and it serves as an extension of yourself. Basically the possibilities are endless - you can be as huge as you want to be and last forever!

Vac-u-Lock -

If you like strap on sex so much you’re not happy with just one toy; then the vac-u-lock system is perfect for you! Basically you choose a (well-fitting!) harness, which has the Vac-u-Lock connector on the front. Then you can choose from a variety of toys which can be connected firmly onto the Vac-u-Lock connector to allow you to swap and exchange whenever you feel like.

The Strap-on Harness

It is absolutely vital that your harness fits well and stays put no matter how much you move around. The most common types of harnesses are the basic leather / leatherette straps which go around your waist and bum, mostly they’re adjustable to fit a wide range of sizes.

Also, there are some latex/vinyl harnesses which snugly fit your pelvic area, and may or may not be adjustable with a velcro strap.

The first time…

Especially if you’re a woman, looking to penetrate your partner for the first time with a strap-on toy, you need to take care of a few things:

1. Get a well fitting harness - there is no fun in having to hold it in place at all times, or readjusting after every couple of strokes. You want the harness to do what it’s supposed to - keep the dildo where you want it no matter what! Depending on your physique, a vinyl/ latex harness may provide better hold. If you choose a leather harness, make sure you adjust the straps tightly, as loose straps will most definitely move out of place!

2. Choose an appropriate toy - depending on how comfortable your partner is with the idea of penetration (especially if you’re planning on having anal sex) you might want to choose a toy which is not too big, and fairly smooth. Textured toys can be great if your partner is used to using dildos and vibrators internally - however for a complete novice, the texture can hurt or distract and reduce pleasure. For a first time anal experience, I advise you get a toy where the diameter doesn’t exceed 1 inch.

3. Plan it well - because it’s your first time, it may take time getting used to how to move, how to enter etc. Plan your first encounter so that you have enough time and are not rushed to complete the act. Stay calm, relaxed and don’t think too much about anything else (or anything at all!).

4. Enjoy yourselves! It’s not a life or death situation - it’s just sex. If it works out perfectly the first time, that’s great, but if not, you can always try again later. So don’t worry about having to perform in a role you’re not so familiar with. Just see it as a fun new experience, nothing to be nervous about!

Just when the Christmas frenzy dies down, and you get used to settling back into your regular working life again, it’s time for another holiday! One very high up on the relationship/romance scale of importance. Of course it’s Valentine’s Day…

Now it can be a tricky thing, getting exactly the right gift, to set the ideal mood for some romantic Valentine’s Day activities. But you’re not alone! At Alter Ego UK, we have exactly an entire website devoted to the tools of love, and one category specifically springs to mind; In our Love Zone, you can discover a wealth of sensual, romantic, naughty and even kinky gift ideas for your special someone. Especially as this year Valentine’s day falls on a Saturday, you can take the whole day off from outside influences, and immerse yourself in your lover. Let it be completely about them - switch off your phones, don’t answer the door, just prepare yourself with a great gift and enjoy it together. Let’s to through our pick of V-Day gift suggestions that you simply cannot miss:

Chocolate - We all love it!

So set the mood with some chocolate related sexy products which express exactly what’s on your mind!

Dress up pretty for your lover!

If you feel good, it projects on to others. So why not look at some sexy lingerie from Alter Ego UK to wear while seducing your partner on this special day.

A naughty surprise….

If you’re into experimentation in the bedroom, a toy can be just the thing you need to take your relationship to an extra level. Why not have a look at our cock rings, vibrators, dildo’s, strap-ons or anal toys….

Pamper yourself and each other

If you get the whole day to yourselves, why not have a sensual bath together, and enjoy an intimate massage. Have a look at our Kamasutra and Shunga ranges of personal pampering products.